Hello! I’m Amie. I started in the fetish scene as a submissive in 1982. I worked as a demo slave in New York BDSM clubs, I had some NSFW adventures in New Orleans and So Cal… and a few places in between.

As I grew older (hopefully a bit wiser) some of my fellow enthusiasts would confide in me. Then I started getting a trickle of their friends who wanted to know more about living a kinky lifestyle. One thing led to another and I actually think I was a “life coach” before it was a thing. Just… a kinky life coach!

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I’ve enjoyed a few years of semi-retirement, but last summer I started to get more actively involved again. What I’ve found is that the crisis in our country is certainly reflected in the scene. It seems like so many people are struggling with issues of self-acceptance!

Do you have questions about BDSM? I might be able to answer. Don’t know the difference between a clothespin and a clover clamp? No problem – we all need to start somewhere. If someone says “bukkake” would you answer “gesundheit”? I don’t judge.

Most importantly – and seriously – are you struggling to accept your nature? Maybe feeling a little guilty? (maybe more than a little?) Are you wondering if being kinky is just a passing phase? Do you assume you’ll grow out of it? I understand. A lot of us feel that way. I did. If you have casual questions I’m happy to explain the ins and outs of the scene, so to speak. If you need someone to talk to long term, I’d love to help. The best thing a Life Coach can offer is a little bit of perspective.

And watch this space! As this site goes “full speed” once more I’m happy to announce I’m taking on a partner! Not only that, but we’re expanding. Because in a time of strife, healing begins with self-love. Self acceptance. Your kink is okay. Let’s talk!